How Does Change Happen, Really?

Most coaching clients come because they want change of some kind. And we coaches have businesses because it’s really hard to make change and to make change that sticks.

Certainly some change is not within (or entirely within) our control.  So Discipline has to do with things that are really, completely within our control. Why don’t we do what we say we want to do?

There are lots of tasks and changes that can be focused on to reach goals. But I think Improving my level of discipline is THE most high-leverage thing I can do to improve my life.

Discipline is making choices that support what you really want, not just what you want in the moment. Consistency is applying discipline over and over, on a minute-by-minute, hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, annual and lifetime basis. Both of those qualities require a high level of consciousness (“I think I want this, but what do I REALLY want, and what choice supports that most?). So if we were able to help our clients (and model ourselves) to become more Conscious, Consistent and Disciplined, might that be the most high leverage thing we could do to support them in creating change that they want?

What are the obstacles? fears, past experiences, contentment. Delusion: “it’s OK to make a different choice in this moment, I’ll make the right choice next time (later today, tomorrow, next wk, next month).” Discipline is making the right choice, right now.

Steps of change:

  1. “Aha” moment (I want, and am ready for, a change)
  2. Decision (what exactly is the change?)
  3. Discipline
  4. Learning
  5. Milestone progress – feedback that “yes, this is what I really want” or “no, this isn’t so great after all.”
  6. Goal reached
  7. Is it a goal that requires ongoing discipline? How will that happen?

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!